Resentment involves feelings of anger and bitterness. While it’s common for such feelings to arise in relationships, holding onto grudges can negatively affect the relationship and your physical and mental health. Harboring resentment might make you avoid certain family members or even act out because of your anger. You might make snide or passive-aggressive comments, lash out, or do things …

Those suffering from insomnia are found to be up to 10 times more likely to experience depression and nearly 17 times more likely to experience anxiety. Yet, so many of us aren’t getting the rest we need, with 1 in three U.S. adults stating they aren’t getting enough sleep. Even more concerning is the fact that about 40% of Americans …

Watching others deal with trauma may offer unexpected insights into our own Do you often find yourself scrolling through candid confessions on #TraumaTok or reading Reddit threads about strangers spilling their emotional struggles? You may be “trauma lurking.” Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. Trauma lurking is the act of quietly seeking out stories of other people’s traumatic experiences, typically …

Emotional Hangovers Can Sneak Up on You—Why They Happen and How to Cope What to know about the lows after the highs Picture this: It’s Monday morning, and you had an awesome weekend filled with friends and fun. So, why in the world do you feel so lousy now? Everything went well, and you didn’t drink too much (or necessarily …

Resentment involves feelings of anger and bitterness. While it’s common for such feelings to arise in relationships, holding onto grudges can negatively affect the relationship and your physical and mental health. Harboring resentment might make you avoid certain family members or even act out because of your anger. You might make snide or passive-aggressive comments, lash out, or do things …

If colder weather and shorter days cause you to feel the winter blues, you’re not alone. It’s not uncommon to experience fatigue, sadness, difficulty concentrating, and a disruption in your sleep schedule during the winter season. For some, this mood change is temporary and easily managed with lifestyle modifications. But for others, the winter blues can turn into a more …

What to know about the lows after the highs Picture this: It’s Monday morning, and you had an awesome weekend filled with friends and fun. So, why in the world do you feel so lousy now? Everything went well, and you didn’t drink too much (or necessarily even at all), so you can’t wrap your mind around why you’re feeling …

Why we experience sadness at the end of summer and how to work through it. Fall is the time when families are getting back into the swing of things after a summer of fun and relaxation. But this time of year can also spark feelings of anxiety and pressure to adjust to a more structured routine as school looms and …

Does it ever seem like other people have it all figured out—their goals, values, and purpose—while you’re just trying to figure out what to have for lunch? Don’t worry. A *lot* of us don’t have it all figured out either. According to one analysis in “The New York Times,” only around 25% of American adults say they have a clear …

How to block out everything that’s keeping you up I don’t know about you, but sleep doesn’t always come that easily for me. I don’t typically have trouble falling asleep, but sleeping through the night is a whole other story. Any small sound can startle me awake. It’s…not great. But something that has helped me enormously—and that I now can’t …

Does it ever seem like other people have it all figured out—their goals, values, and purpose—while you’re just trying to figure out what to have for lunch? Don’t worry. A *lot* of us don’t have it all figured out either. According to one analysis in “The New York Times,” only around 25% of American adults say they have a clear …

I may hate “The Bachelor” but I sure love watching it Why are we *so* drawn to things we hate? There’s something satisfying about reading about a celebrity you can’t stand or listening to a podcast that irks your nerves. It’s like the negativity is so attractive and all-consuming that you can’t but go back for more. I’m not alone …

Whether you can’t get motivated to clean your house or you just aren’t feeling motivated to lose weight, a lack of motivation can be the biggest obstacle to reaching your goals. When you have no motivation to complete a task (or even start one), consider the possible reasons why you’re struggling. Then, develop a plan to help motivate yourself to …

It’s Saturday morning and you casually open your social media feed to find your close friend’s story chock full of videos of an exciting night on the town. All your other friends were there too, your stomach sinks…did they forget about you? Being excluded from plans, or just feeling left out, can be downright painful. Such feelings can send us …

Ever notice how good you feel after exercising? The other day, I was seconds from working out when my husband walked by and made an annoying comment about the living room mess. My blood pressure rose, my fists clenched, and my jaw tightened. I was getting ready to snap back at him but decided my workout was more important. I …

As mental health awareness, “therapy speak,” and self-care advocacy rises, so do conversations on boundaries. It isn’t uncommon to scroll social media and see colorful infographics providing step-by-step instructions on how to exit conversations and ways to shut down unhelpful feedback. This increased awareness isn’t unwarranted—since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, research suggests we’re in the midst of a …

In the 2003 holiday movie classic, “Elf,” the main character, Buddy, shares a particular fondness for the holiday season, “The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear!” No matter what traditions you celebrate this winter, not everyone shares Buddy’s enthusiasm for this season. While the holidays can be a time of celebration and joy …

What can you do if you’re a teacher, a neighbor, a churchgoer, a coach … and you suspect a child is being impacted by a parent’s addiction? Maybe you’re thinking, “I’d love to help but it’s not my business.” Or “I want to reach out but I don’t know much about addiction.” Remember that episode of Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood, where …

A psychiatrist explains that difficult emotions are natural in new motherhood—and how partners and society at large can be supportive. You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child? We don’t talk much about …

A majority of parents rarely, if ever, discuss race/ethnicity, gender, class or other categories of social identity with their kids, according to a new, nationally representative survey of more than 6,000 parents conducted by Sesame Workshop and NORC at the University of Chicago. The researchers behind Sesame Street say the fact that so many families aren’t talking about these issues …

The American Academy of Pediatrics has just issued a report on what pediatricians can — and should — do to help “school-aged children who are not progressing academically.” Dr. Arthur Lavin, one of the lead authors of the report and the chairman of the A.A.P. committee on the psychosocial aspects of child and family health, said that pediatricians can play …

New guidelines for therapies for children and adolescents can reduce or eliminate attacks of migraine and greatly shorten their duration. My grandson Stefan was about 8 years old when he began to get migraine headaches. As soon as he could after getting home from school, he would lie down and go to sleep, awakening an hour or two later, usually …

And how to stop them from driving you bonkers. Little kids are diabolically engineered to make their parents do what they want. That’s the overwhelming impression I got when I talked to a bunch of academics about the origins of whining. “Children are good at co-opting whatever arsenal of behaviors they have” to get parental attention, said James A. Green, …

Parents can feel inadequate if they fall short of the idealized view of intensive parenting, in which they act directly and decisively in the child’s life. Last year when Patrick Ishizuka published a parenting study, he set off another round of discussion about what we call good parenting, and who is able to do it. The study looked at the …

Mark Seidenberg is not the first researcher to reach the stunning conclusion that only a third of the nation’s schoolchildren read at grade level. The reasons are numerous, but one that Seidenberg cites over and over again is this: The way kids are taught to read in school is disconnected from the latest research, namely how language and speech actually …

Recognizing warning signs and documenting the bullying may help, experts say. The bullying started with some teasing and mean comments, but escalated significantly when Mallory Grossman, 12, a cheerleader and gymnast from New Jersey, began middle school. It spread to social media where a group of children tormented her. They took pictures of Mallory at school, without her knowledge, posted …

On a summer afternoon, Ciara Whelan, a teacher at a New York City elementary school, knocks on the apartment door of one of her students in the Bronx. Melissa, the student’s mother, welcomes her guest with a huge platter of snacks — shrimp rolls and dill dip. Melissa explains that this past school year — third grade — her daughter, …

For youngsters these days, an hour of free play is like a drop of water in the desert. Of course they’re miserable. According to the psychologist Peter Gray, children today are more depressed than they were during the Great Depression and more anxious than they were at the height of the Cold War. A 2019 study published in the Journal …

Affluence—not willpower—seems to be what’s behind some kids’ capacity to delay gratification. The marshmallow test is one of the most famous pieces of social-science research: Put a marshmallow in front of a child, tell her that she can have a second one if she can go 15 minutes without eating the first one, and then leave the room. Whether she’s …

Kids with obesity face a host of health problems related to their weight, like high blood pressure, diabetes and joint problems. Research points to another way heavier children and teens are at risk: their own doctors’ bias. This prejudice has real health consequences for kids, making families less likely to show up for appointments or get recommended vaccines. I am …